The decision to NOT have children is a mature one, and should never be questioned by others.  There is no law saying you must have children, even if you do like other people's kids.
 
I have three children, whom I love dearly.  Some days it is a huge challenge.  However, I wouldn't trade them for the world, even the severely autistic one.  That is not to say that other people should have children and accept that as their fate.
 
I found this blog because I'm searching for a way to tell one of my best friends that I don't want my kid playing with her kid.  Love the mother, can't stand the child.  So, even though I have kids, I understand why some of the people here can't stand other people's kids.
 
I wish you luck with your life.

dude, if you really want her back you have to move on. it is something about human nature that makes us to want only what we can't have. You have to become unaccessible to her and she will want you back. It takes about a month or so. In this time do not make any contact with her and do not ask friends also about her. Start phisical training, go out, have fun. Meet her  after a month and tell her that you made a mistake not understanding her needs to be free and that you begged like a little boy...she needs a man. Also tell her that you moved on but learned from the lesson and that you support her decision. Make the meeting 20 min maximum. Just to be sure set something in your scheddule. And leave. The thing is you should not be lying girls now when we do that, sometimes they do not want to believe it. So better really move on. After another two weeks period in whichyou continue building yourself up you meet again, just to check how is she doing. 30 minutes maximum. In all this period you do not tell her anything related to your plans of winning her back,or your deep felings. By doing this you become unaccesible and also stronger and more manly. Have fun, live life also start dating. girls are attracted to that not being weak. When she will see how good you are doing without her she will want you back. Do all of that genuinely. Don't tell her that you started dating...she will find out from others anyway. I can tell you that  Sometimes by that time you will not want her back.

Don't rush nor force things. Let it happen naturally. If it is meant to happen with this Julian guy, it will.

Oh man.. I hate kids too but at least none are throwing diapers. That  must be a health hazard and you should call the cops and get a restraining order on them. Have no mercy laws are laws and harassment   is wrong  no matter what age. Start putting razors in the trash LOL..

I hate kids too. I have been wondering the same thing.. what is wrong with me? Why can't I just see and feel the same things other people seem to feel and see when they're around kids. I find kids annoying, loud, messy.. they cause nothing but problems and rob you of your personal life and freedom.

Okay, this sounds exactly like my last relationship so I'm going to try and give you the other perspective. Sometimes, people just fall out of love. If one person is doing everything and putting all the effort, they get tired and just want something else.  That's what happened with my boyfriend and I. He loved me a lot, I know he did, and I did too. But, I was always the one making an effort to make the relationship work and last, and in the end, I got tired so I just stopped caring and he started taking up the hint and tried to make it work, but by then, I was just too far gone and things didn't work out. Now we're both single, but a lot happier than we were. It's hard to feel happy right away after letting go of someone you've cared for for so long, but if the relationship wasn't working, it's better to just let it go.

I think it would be best for you to leave him. Any guy who makes you feel unhappy, or gives you reason not to trust him, is not worth your time. It's hard to get over strong emotional ties, but trust me, in the end, it will be worth it.

Heyy,, it seems like i'm sort of in the same boat..i've been with my guy for a year..he said he loved me, bought me things, and even got my named tattooed..but now it seems like hes all about money, and wants to tlk to other girls for money...i get left out the picture an im stuck in love, while he wants to hang with his friends. I'll tell you what everyone has told me. Leave Her Alone..if you're a good guy then she'll realise what she had an want to come back..its going to be hard, but try an stay busy to keep your mind off her. but good luck

Thanx 'Duder' for your advice. But when i try to talk her things get even worse, I too sometimes feel annoying talking to her as she seems not to be interested in starting it again & she doesn't even care for me.The reason she gives is that i am not that same person, becomes rude & hyper. She says her life is much better now. But that's a very selfish reason according to me. On the other hand its nearly impossible to forget her, and still want her. I am ready to change but she don't wanna give a chance. I can just wait and pray.

You are experiencing "envy", One of the deadly sins as society would perceive it. We all want something that others have (Great job,car,wife/husband,sex etc.) Welcome to life. We work to get money and the only person that notices is the land-lord,Wife (if a male and married) and tax collectors. Sadly, No one gives a damn about the efforts people make to survive. If people aren't noticing the good deeds you put yourself through for them, then you need better people in your life. No one should have to deal with unappreciative morons that can't appreciate the time,effort and work you do. This applies everywhere unfortunately. IF *YOU* think that what you put into a job asked to be done by yourself is done sufficiently then don't worry about what others think, People are jerks...accept for who you are and commend yourself for being a hard worker who's honest and passionate about what you do. That's all I can say. Good luck.

Not everyone views life in the same way you do. I commend you to trying to make a better tomorrow within society but people are so messed up today and hateful that what you are trying to achieve isn't obtainable. People hate,discrimate,hurt others just to make themselves feel good. If they can bring another person down emotionally it makes their sick,twisted heart feel so much better because they be-littled another human being lower then the level of anguish that is being experienced by the person who delivered the blow.
 
  The factors are more likely deeper then your understanding. Such as a person who gets ridiculed for being "Obese" can you sit back and imagine what's going on in that poor person's head when being called a "Fat ass"? We all wish we could live in a picture perfect paradise but it's simply not going to happen. People will live,die,act like children and possible never grow up mentally. That's their choice.

This sounds like a tale of "love gets old" kind of scenario. All you can do is be yourself. Show her that you care,Sit down and have a long talk with her,let her know you are willing to make changes in your perspective of the relationship. Not only tell her but show her incentive by showing her. Respect her wants and needs. Whatever you two are upset about,Try to talk it out and if the oven gets too hot. Take a break to cool off and start again. If she isn't willing to work it out if you tried it all. Then you must face facts and wake up to reality. You'll have to move on. Don't push yourself too hard because that'll will force you into a pillow of tears. I've been there, it's hard to say good-bye. However if she's willing to listen and you are willing to change yourself in a way that's good for both of you,then you are on your way to something "Beautiful". Good luck.