Your not a failure you just sound lost try sorting one thing at a time to find a little happiness, When you go out try to pace yourself spend more time talking to the people your out with this should slow down your drinking.
Work on keeping up with one or two old friends a quick Hi how are you once a week should be a good to start with (one good friend is better than none!)
Hope im not interfering Hang in there xx  

And don’t worry - I’m always safe. CURFWB and I actually both had HIV tests at work, and ExFWB hadn’t been with anyone else before Yes, I live with the one girl, and I was her first, and I work with the other one. Eish. I guess that adds a whole new layer to this predicament!

Hey, thx for the comment
 
I do feel that I'm in a bit of a pickle with this situation. I guess the CURFWB's timing is just really bad. I feel like I have gone from a state of celibacy and turned into a sexual fiend. Lol. It’s funny how life works like that. I really just don’t want to hurt anyone (namely ExFWB).

hey there, daaarnnn u really know how to put your feet in it. Ex-Best-friend-with-benefits (ExFWB) will be hurt if she finds out, if it is by hearing from you, or someone else. She'll find out either way, best u tell her. It may scar your relationship, but if she hears it from someone else, it may be the end. Thing is, we are emotional beings, u were the one who decided that its not gonna work more than her. EBFWB probably feels something for you, even if it is only a little. Current-friend-with-benefits (CurFWB)if she takes sex as casual, then her relationship with you is casual. I dont know her at all...so from a third party random person that visits the peegly website, try not to get attached, and beware that she doesnt get attached to you. If she confessed her feelings...she probably do have something for you.
 
look its only my thoughts, lz dont be angry or offended coz once again....i have noooo idea who u are, ExFWB or CurFWB
 
good luck...and dont be silly wrap your Willy...AIDS can happen to you too. I may sound like ur grandma or mom, but im a loooot younger than u think. anyway i hope it works out

I want love!

:D

You need to get laid

"friends I am losing touch with because we have different lifestyles and jobs"
 
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I wear my heart in my chest - protected by a solid rib-cage! It's safer that way :D Sorry, don't know what to suggest...

How do you know that your wife does not want it anymore?
Have you spoken to her?  
 
Maybe you need to show her some interest in what she does and be their for her, support and give her a hug.  When last did you give her a kiss just for the sake of giving one?

hey there, life is a funny thing...ill tell u to be patient...but i hate waiting as much. good luck with studying, its not an easy plays to be, and people don't understand. she is out there...i promise you she is. it seems supercorny i know. she'll come when you least expect it...then u wouldnt know what hit u...but it will be awesome

the funny thing about us all being in our own different worlds... is that it allows us to share this world.  if we saw everything through the same lens there wouldn't be any separation... there would be just us... and us would be wondering... is there anything else out there?   the separation is the ultimate gift.  it allows us to share :)
 
im lonely too but a little bit less lonely after seeing that i am not alone