I'm a parent of two, going on three children.  Babies, at least have a reason to cry.  They can't tell you what they want, so they're frustrated.  The older ones, can communicate, but they choose the most embarrassing, horrible ways to do so.  I dislike my kids most of the time, just because of that, and because they make messes, fight over toys, yell, and scream.  I can't get sleep, and it'll be worse when the next one is born.  They have these moments though, that I can't help but smile.  You take the good with the bad, just like any relationship.  Would I have them again if I could go back in time?  Maybe not when I did, but eventually.  I didn't want kids, but I'm not good with the pill, so it was like, "I'm what?!". When I found out that I was pregnant.  Are you bad for hating them?  No.

I agree with you completely, I'm young, still live at home, and my sister who unfortunately had to get pregnant and give birth to a fucking anti-christ, is unfortunately still living at home with me, and I CANNOT stand to be around her child. Can't be in the same room, and when I am, I have to vacate within 10 seconds. Makes too much fucking annyoing ass noise - screaming, repeating the same word 50 times for no damn reason, throwing around toys - makes a mess, whether it be food or stupid ass baby toys (which also frankly piss me off with the ridiculous colors and retarded looking cartoony drawings) and anything else that she shouldn't be touching, books, utensils, whatever she manages to get her filthy hands on. What really gets to me is that her child ruthlessly torments our dog, and finds some twisted deranged sadistic pleasure in it... but I've been rambling on for too long now, so I'll get to the bottom line, I HATE KIDS, there's nothing wrong with that, I'm young, why should I like kids, maybe when I'm in my 30's or 40's or whatever I'll have a different perspective. Anyone who opposes to what I've just written can go fuck themselves. I had a completely normal life, I'm not a psycho, and don't feed me some god damned bullshit about how "I was once a child and my parents had to put up with me blah blah blah" because that's horseshit, I'm not my fucking parents, I didn't choose to have a child and put up with the bullshit, maybe they are more tolerable than me anyway, who knows! And if you respond don't expect said reply to be read because I only came to this site to vent a little bit and my complete and seething hatred for anything that is an infant / toddler / child.

i am stuck for real.. i have everything but i'am still not satisfied.. i really don't know what to do..

quite close to my situation.. i can understand ur condition...

boy friends do not last .. friendship does.

well..puff drama of being life...you should find a gf immediately and know your resposibilities in your life ex have fun with your family go out and drink with your friendzz...you're 20 come on.you shouldnt give up...why dont you plan something for your future?..its good idea..ex what u gonna do,where u gonna live?..life is good my friend.just Live and smile :)

I know how it feels to be not sure of anything happening right in your life. I am currently suffering the same delima as yours. I moved back with my parents leaving my well paid to be with them. I thought i would find a job immediately. I am terrified to tell me parents that i made a mistake moving back with them. I am too proud to accept to my manage to take me back to my last job. I can't find a decent job in this city and it will be almost 3 months. Addtionally, my parents want me to get married this year. Additionally, i come from a conservative indian family so will have a arrange marriage. I am not sure about anything but only thing i have at this moment is HOPE. Hope to have a better and happier in the future without hurting anyone. I am horrible at advices. All i could say is hang on there.

Aww:) That's so sweet.

It's amazing how i feel so similar to you. There is a pressure to honour your family, but what happens if you compromise yourself in the process?
 
I am currently not in your position, but I can see that my future is possibly going that way, as I am approaching the transition from studying to working, and everything (logic/logistics) and everyone (my family) seems to be against where I want to work. I tell myself maybe I'll go with the flow for a year (to gain experience and prove myself in the working world), then do what I want...but I don't want to get stuck! I had a vision of my life exactly as you described yours...
 
I'm sorry I have no solutions... i know how hard it can be to stand up to family. How hard it is to truly follow your heart.

i can understand you well..cuz i have same problem..i love somebody for 10 months..he lives so far from me..but distance doesnt matter he's in my heart,in my soul...i didnt say him that i love him yet.we're talking on msn and on facebook..if you really love him,the most important problem is how to trust him,right?..cuz of that im looking his facebook account every single day.
 
if you both love each other..there are lotzz of things to do.like i do..he says that he will come to my country and marry with me..
 
Time is the most important thing..there is nothing impossible..just believe yourself!:)

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I feel the same way!  And now my boyfriend is asking about kids now so I don't know what I'm going to do.  I respect your wishes and, like you, I wish to not ever have to have kids, the biological imperative no longer applies.