You would be better off if you just said screw it! You made him your ex for a reason, it's not like he's going to suddenly be Mr. Right during the divorce happenings. The next time he calls you selfish say, yup I'm selfish while you enjoy all the t.v.'s and all my furniture asshole! Screw him, swear, call him an asshole, what do you have to lose? Nothing, HE took everything and he IS an asshole! It doesn't matter who wanted the divorce or even if it was mutual, he's a man and men are simple creatures and his poor pathetic man ego was hurt during the divorce, even if it was mutual, men are stupid and simple and his pathetic little ego is crushed and he will treat you like shit because of it! Just remember your goal, divorce and to get away from him. Life for a while may suck as you rebuild your life but keep in mind that you are much better off without him no matter what! The basic principles of men are to fluff their ego's daily and make them feel special in some stupid way, even if you act pathetic and say you can't open a jar, they get off on that shit and have to feel important in your eyes. You have to say nice shit you don't really mean to them all the time....ex.- 'Honey you make the best coffe, I love it when you make the coffee in the morning.' that was a both fluff the ego and a feel important bullshit in man lessons. And of course you have to call thier thing special and large even if it's 4"; you have to fake getting off during sex so they feel special and so they'll get the hell off of you. All this stupid work so they'll make you laugh and come home every week with money...Christ what a freaken bullshit story to go threw for that! Basically, men are simple like a dog and it's pretty much the same rules as dog ownership, the only difference is you have to fake orgasims so they'll get off of you. Trust me, men are a dime a dozen and you'll meet another idiot that you have to do the man game with, this jerk is part of a divorce for a reason. Go on with your life and be happy you divorced him and pray for the day when you don't have to see him. I wish you good luck in your next man game and all the shit you have to go through and all the game playing to fluff thier tiny little egos that you have to do; I wish you well in your future man ego fluff games. (You know what's funny? They are so stupid they don't even know it's happening to them...Idiots! If they only knew how much smarter we are than them, really!)

I feel for you, giving up on love always hurts, no matter the reason. He doesn't want to go with you because he is concerned about spending time with his friends. He does not REALLY love you or who and what you are then. Being with his friends is more important to him than being with you, doesn't that ring any bells within you? You have studied in this city for a while and met this guy and had a relationship with him, but when it comes a time to make serious adult choices and be with you, his concern is finding time to be with his friends. Oh honey, please, the man isn't worth it, c'mon now! You followed your dreams and went to school and now you want to return home and follow your dreams desire, I applaud you, that's great! During your dream you met some guy, let's call it a setback shall we, don't give up your goals and dreams just for some guy who thinks of you second, screw that! Men are a dime a dozen, finish school, go home and do business there; chances are you'll find a decent man at home who actually loves you for you and wont make you make choices between him and his friends. Life is very short, remember that YOU come first and there is no rewind button in life.

You spoke your peace and a few other people who didn't agree with you found it necessary to belittle you and call you selfish because you didn't agree with them or the "norm". Screw people, it's your life and you are free to think and feel any damn thing you want to. I also can't stand the little rugrats and I find them annoying as all hell. I am polite to children when they are forced in my face but generally, I avoid them. I don't care what people think of me for it and I don't care if the small minded people of the world find it necessary to force feed me their beliefs because it differs from theirs because all you are doing is making it clear that you are small minded and must make the world believe as you do. I and the writer of this post have a right to believe and like whatever we do or don't want to. Almost the whole world loves children except us few; Almost the whole world loves puppies and kittens too but I wouldn't bad mouth some person who didn't just because I did. More power to you lady for speaking your mind and daring to go against the "norm". Someone had to stick up for her!

oh wow, i love italian but don't speak much of it! i would love to learn it though :) you're not too bad at english! i'll give you a little help if you want :) sarah x

Your english seems pretty good judging by your post :)

so do I

WTF? How can you possibly love such a loser?? He doesn't sound like the kind of person that's going to make you happy in the long run

If such thoughts ever manifest into actions you are going to die alone.

Eish that's quite a pickle. You really need to tell the guy as he's standing in the way of your happiness. It sounds like he knows it's coming anyway. He'll get over it. We all do, eventually...

I LOVE babies - especially with sweet chilly sauce. Devine! :D

The sun is shining and it's Friday :)
 
I know the feeling. You really shouldn't hang out with people who don't appreciate you. Ditch them, join a club, meet new people with similar interests, and smile :D

She's probably cheating on you