You would be better off if you just said screw it! You made him your ex for a reason, it's not like he's going to suddenly be Mr. Right during the divorce happenings. The next time he calls you selfish say, yup I'm selfish while you enjoy all the t.v.'s and all my furniture asshole! Screw him, swear, call him an asshole, what do you have to lose? Nothing, HE took everything and he IS an asshole! It doesn't matter who wanted the divorce or even if it was mutual, he's a man and men are simple creatures and his poor pathetic man ego was hurt during the divorce, even if it was mutual, men are stupid and simple and his pathetic little ego is crushed and he will treat you like shit because of it! Just remember your goal, divorce and to get away from him. Life for a while may suck as you rebuild your life but keep in mind that you are much better off without him no matter what! The basic principles of men are to fluff their ego's daily and make them feel special in some stupid way, even if you act pathetic and say you can't open a jar, they get off on that shit and have to feel important in your eyes. You have to say nice shit you don't really mean to them all the time....ex.- 'Honey you make the best coffe, I love it when you make the coffee in the morning.' that was a both fluff the ego and a feel important bullshit in man lessons. And of course you have to call thier thing special and large even if it's 4"; you have to fake getting off during sex so they feel special and so they'll get the hell off of you. All this stupid work so they'll make you laugh and come home every week with money...Christ what a freaken bullshit story to go threw for that! Basically, men are simple like a dog and it's pretty much the same rules as dog ownership, the only difference is you have to fake orgasims so they'll get off of you. Trust me, men are a dime a dozen and you'll meet another idiot that you have to do the man game with, this jerk is part of a divorce for a reason. Go on with your life and be happy you divorced him and pray for the day when you don't have to see him. I wish you good luck in your next man game and all the shit you have to go through and all the game playing to fluff thier tiny little egos that you have to do; I wish you well in your future man ego fluff games. (You know what's funny? They are so stupid they don't even know it's happening to them...Idiots! If they only knew how much smarter we are than them, really!)